Stepping Back

I have an odd relationship with blogging. I love blogging and consider it one of my favorite hobbies. But I also understand and recognize that sometimes it takes its toll on me. Sometimes I just want to retreat and be a little reclusive. The great thing is that I blog because I love blogging – not to make money or fulfill any professional obligations. There are times when I am very consistent in my blogging – I even go through phases where I’m posting twice a day. And then sometimes I’m lucky to post twice a week.

I’m okay with that.

To me, blogging is cathartic. It is a release. And if it ever starts feeling like pressure, or if it starts feeling forced, it’s time to pull back.

I think new bloggers get very anxious about the idea of taking a few days off. But something you all have taught me is that your readers will still be there. And if my reasons for blogging are primarily personal, then taking some personal time is exactly what I need to do.

I’ve spent the past few days stepping back a little. Not only from blogging, but from social media too. Don’t get me wrong – I’m a self-proclaimed social media junkie. But one morning I caught myself catching up on my Twitter feed while I sat at the breakfast table with my son. That’s not the mom I want to be. That’s not the example I want to set.

I realized that when I woke up in the middle of the night (as pregnant women are apt to do), I would be checking my email. While sitting at a stop light, I’d be checking Facebook.

Life is too short.

While blogging and social media is one of my favorite hobbies, it is just that – a hobby. And sometimes it’s important to step back and be present. That doesn’t mean be present by instantly uploading whatever you are doing in the present to Instagram. Sometimes it means putting the computer away, putting the phone in the other room and just focusing on the people around you.

Can anyone else relate?

If so, I challenge you to take a step back today. Maybe go sans technology at lunch. Take a walk without taking your phone. Challenge yourself to put away all electronics until your baby goes to sleep.

Be present.

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  2. I can relate to this completely! My husband and I noticed we were both on our phones a lot so we instituted a no-phone policy from the time he gets home from work until our son goes to bed. This way we are not only more present for our son but also for each other.

    Our son (who is 3) will also remind me if I’m on the phone too much and take it away from me :)

  3. I can totally relate to this feeling! I just started blogging, but all of the other stuff -> emails, phone calls, Facebook… Why do we feel the need to constantly check on these things? I realized a few months ago that whenever I get in the car I call someone…but why? It’s not safe or necessary so I have been trying to stop. I totally commend you for being such a great mother and being present!

  4. Well said! I have definitely been in a bit of a blogging slump, but then when I get an idea and feel like writing it feels so good to get back to it. I think it’s important for ourselves (as well as for our families and friends) that we are actually able to unplug sometimes.

  5. I went for a run last night completely unplugged. No phone, watch, or iPod. Just me and my thoughts. I haven’t done that in LONG time and it felt great to take a break from technology!

  6. Kat

    Amen sister! Since I won the ipad, hubs gives me the evil eye and I know I’ve been needing to work on disconnecting. It’s just so hard because I feel like I’m missing something. BUt I’d rather miss something online than life with my family and those close to me ;)

  7. This is so true. Thanks for the reminder.

  8. Oh my goodness Callie – this is SO where I’m at lately! I’ve always been a (roughly) 2x per week blogger but since I’ve had to stop running, I am really struggling with posting. There are days where I feel like I *have* to post something just because it’s been over a week, but I don’t *want* to. My husband has told me time & again that the blog will be there when I’m ready to blog regularly again. I don’t need to stress out about it! And if I lose followers along the way? Oh well! This is luckily a hobby, not a living for me & I shouldn’t be letting it stress me out!

  9. Must Instagram all the things! :)

  10. Yes, I so feel you on this! I stopped bringing my phone with me anytime I am nursing or rocking my son and keep all technology away from the table at any meal. My husband and I even have a weekly computer free night. It is so refreshing to be present!

  11. i LOVE this!! i went sans technology a little bit today and LOVED it!! i need to work on doing that a little more each day

  12. Amanda Kellogg

    Callie- you hit the nail on the head. I’ve found myself doing those exact same things -checking email, FB and instagram when I should be more “present”. I think this challenge is a great idea! I’m definitely going to try!

  13. sometimes I catch myself getting caught up in blogging that I must do it or if I don’t somethign crazy is going to happen but I have realized that sometimes not blogging is okay too! (: Great post!

  14. Jenn

    I so needed that! I need to unplug.

  15. that was my yesterday.
    and LOOKIE AT THAT :) the world didnt fall apart.

    xoxo

  16. I definitely relate and it has been something that I have worked really hard at finding the balance with. I’ve certainly gotten better, but know there is still room for improvement. I agree that it’s necessary to step back when you feel the need. Most important to live life.

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  18. totally and 100% understood and relating. just stay true to blogging when YOU want. and when YOU feel like it. AT the point it’s obligation or taking over other values and responsibilities, take your step-back. We’ll just be all the happier when a new post pops up :)

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