Choose Love

Traditional wedding vows go something like this:

“I, _____, take you, ______, to be my husband….”

When we got married, we decided to change those words. Instead, we started our vows by saying,

“I, Nathan, CHOOSE you, Callie, to be my wife…”


As a society, we talk a lot about falling in love. We talk about feelings associated with love.

But love is not just a feeling. Love is a verb. Love is an action.

Many days, love is a choice.

After four years of marriage, there are days when I am overwhelmed with love for my husband. The feelings just well up inside me, and I still get butterflies when I look at him.

But there are other days when I make a conscious choice to love him. And there are probably twice as many days when he has to make the conscious choice of loving me.

But he always does. And I always will.


As our pastor said four years ago today,

“I dare you both to do something dangerous and passionate with your marriage that leaves a mark on society that says ‘a family sold out to God traveled this way’ and left a legacy of life and hope behind. CHOOSE GOD, CHOOSE EACH OTHER. That’s what you’ll do today, and that’s what I pray you do for the rest of your lives.”
I choose you, Nathan. Today and every day for the rest of my life.
Happy Anniversary, my love!


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10 Responses to Choose Love

  1. Congrats to you and your husband!

  2. Just beautiful! Happy Anniversary and a lifetime more!

  3. Happy Anniversary! This is such a beautiful post. Thank you for setting such a great example.:)

  4. Happy Anniversary! Enjoy your beautiful family.

  5. Nala

    What a powerful commitment! Happy Anniversary!

  6. Just found your blog. What a beautiful post. Thanks for sharing and Happy Anniversary!!

  7. So sweet! Happy anniversary!!! 🙂

  8. Happy Anniversary! I love your words…as usual. 🙂

  9. Brooke

    Beautifully said. You are wise beyond your years, my dear! Thank you for sharing and happy anniversary!

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